Thank You
I won’t be posting this week other than this one to say thank you. I have been blogging about my childhood as an adopted person for over 3 months, and I wanted to take this opportunity to say thank...
View Article#26 Open Adoption Merry Go Round
At 9 years old, I understood that I had been legally adopted the year before. I belonged within my adoptive family as recognized by law. I logically realized that there was no turning back, but my...
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#27 Self Addressed Stamped Envelope
One afternoon I sat at our kitchen counter writing my biological mom a letter. I had spent quite a bit of time on the letter and thought it expressed exactly how I felt. I mentioned in the letter to...
View Article#28 Jealousy Over Pictures
Picture #1 During spring break, my adoptive mom took me to visit my biological family. My older sisters and I had opposing weeks off from school, so while I was there, they were gone during the day....
View ArticleProtected: Symbolic Graveyard: The Sting of Race in My Adoption
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View ArticleTouched By Adoption?
Today I read another article marketed to those “touched” by adoption. It sounds so endearing, doesn’t it? Who wouldn’t want to be “touched” by adoption? Those words carry such sweet and innocent...
View ArticleStolen Childhood Years
This is going to be one of those posts. Adoptive parents, look away. Actually, the adoptive parents it doesn’t pertain to, keep reading. You won’t be offended because it’s not about you. This is to...
View ArticleMusings of the Lame
I’m excited to announce that I will be a contributing member of the team at Musings of the Lame where I will be writing on the topic of open adoption. I have actually been writing about open adoption...
View ArticleBiological Father Contact
Resilient Adoptees Sometimes I feel like a real asshole. I’ve had my biological father’s name and picture since I was about fourteen years old. Other adoptees have little information and are engaged in...
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The Adoption Knot
Photo by Amberrabid Adoption feels like a gigantic knot to me. A huge balled up knot that is the complicated life of adoption, open adoption, two families, extended family from four sides, explaining...
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#25 Open Adoption Does Not Equal Open Records
Birth certificate One morning, I woke up to the sounds of kitchen cabinets slamming. When my mom wasn’t happy, she made sure everyone knew it. I decided to go in to see what the cause of the commotion...
View ArticleOpen Adoption Has Already Been Discussed
As I was deleting the spam comments on my blog this morning, I came across one that simply read, “This has already been discussed.” A spam comment with complete insight. Yes, adoption and specifically...
View ArticleAnnoying Adoption Phrases
Last year during November, the term “Gotcha Day” got a lot of attention during NAAM. I’m accustomed to hearing the term being criticized. On most of the groups I belong to, any time it’s used, there...
View ArticleOpen Adoption Expectations
I was recently reading some information about open adoption and came across this gem, “open adoption helps a child manage his grief and loss of being adopted.” Basically, they were saying that because...
View Article25 Open Adoption Questions to Consider
What should I consider before agreeing to enter into an open adoption? The following questions are by no means exhaustive. In fact these are just a few considerations that might lead to a deeper...
View ArticleOpen Adoption. Closed Off.
When I was young, my adoptive mother made some of my clothes. I was about eight years old and on a two week visit with my biological family when my sister noticed the shirt I was wearing one morning....
View ArticleOpen Adoption Comparisons
In response to a post earlier this week (Open Adoption. Closed Off.) about the pain I experienced in open adoption, I received the following question: “I wonder if that is how kids feel when their...
View ArticleOpen Adoption vs Closed Adoption
I was raised in open adoption and write about the issues in open adoption often. Sometimes I’m asked if I think it would have been better to have been raised in closed adoption. Open adoption vs closed...
View ArticleAdoptive Parent Blogging
One of the top issues adoptees will have to contend with in the future is adoptive parents who blogged, wrote books and posted on social media their personal and private information when they were...
View ArticleMy Favorite Word
Why do I turn every love song into a song about her? Every broken hearted melodic tune Cracks in the mirror Tears on a pillow My heart is blood stained We have the same hands Did we ever touch? We have...
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